“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future” ~ Steve Maraboli
Have you ever noticed how when you wash a dish shortly after using it it’s MUCH easier to clean than if you stick it in the sink then let it sit for a while? Same thing with our mistakes.
When you have done your asking as described in part 1 of this series and have gotten the needed feedbacks the next thing is to ask yourself the following questions: What was I hoping to achieve with this decision? Did I make it out of anger or it was well thought out? Is it really for the greater good of the team or just for the good of a few? Has the outcome so far been what I expected? Did I make the right efforts at communicating it clearly enough?
Asking these questions would help you stand back and reassess the decision you have made. It gives you the ability to be your own critique.
“Have you had a failure or rejection? You could get bitter. That’s one way to deal with it. Or…you could just get BETTER. What do you think?” Destiny Booze.
The objective should be to get better with the decision that has been made and not to get bitter or to find enemies, the focus is the growth of the team which I believe is the reason why you made the decision in the first place.
A lot of thinking would follow and like Joyce Meyer said “
Discipline enables you to think first and act second”.
When you are done thinking and analyzing all the feedbacks and answering all your questions, you are set for the next step…Reframe. We would cover this tomorrow.
But most importantly, do not let the decision sit in the sink for too long if you are certain it needs cleaning, be more aware and correct course ASAP.
Wishing you a great UN International Youths Day Celebration.
NB: Please follow Teajey Chunu @unsualteajay, he has a wonderful Twitter Conversation tagged #MentalHealthMatters to mark the #UNYouthsDay. Everyone’s invited.
I honour you.