At one point or the other in every leader’s life, they will be faced with this decision and acceptance challenge, what will matter in the end of the day is how they choose to address it.
The best way to get out of such challenge and get your team together again working in synchronized rhythm with you is to ‘reframe’. The American author and lecturer, Marianne Williamson describes it this way:
“Our key to transforming anything lies in our ability to reframe it”.
Reframing gives you the ability to turn an ugly situation into something good. It leads to a win-win experience most of the time. Reframing does not necessarily mean you were totally wrong with that decision, the issue could have been that you did not communicate it clearly enough so your team didn’t get to see the picture as you did. Don’t feel bad that you have to reframe, just remind yourself that it is okay not to be perfect.
Bringing everybody together and asking team members input is a great way to reframe. You will be surprised to find out that the original idea may only end up being modified just a little bit but not thrown out the window.
In achieving this, international author and speaker, Chris Dorris suggests the conflict approach. He says:
“The word conflict actually originally meant “to struggle together with”. The best leaders create a culture that supports disagreement. It leads to creativity. The New School definition of “conflict” is: coming together to experience our disagreements so as to activate creative genius and inspire innovative ideas and solution”.
When everyone has thrown their thoughts to the table on the decision, the best ideas or modifications will come out and thereafter, everyone will be ready to run with it even if was not their suggested modifications but because they had an input.
Your job in the discussion would be to balance the faith and the facts. John C. Maxwell in his book the 21 Irrefutable laws of leadership describes it this way:
“Good navigators also make sure their conclusions represent both faith and fact. They have faith that they can take their people all the way. But they also face facts realistically. They balance optimism and realism”.
Once you are able to do this and show your team the pros and cons, you are good to go and believe me, they will be ready to run with you all the way with that decision because you will be able to get their buy in.
And in the end of the day, you come out a better leader than you were, this is because “a mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimension”.
So go get your team together and reframe.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter and maybe a personal experience, please do add them in the comment session below.
Have a wonderful day.
I honour you.